Never Drink or Do Drugs

Jelle de Maayer on Sep 23, 2012

that is gay. Live a little.

Scot Hacker on Sep 23, 2012

Jelle - Seriously? You're using "gay" as a pejorative in a public space? Aren't you embarrassed for yourself?

ZombieGirl on Sep 24, 2012

Ok gay is the wrong word to use. But I think to live you at least need to experience alcohol or weed. Not to harmful if done right! My dad was an alcoholic that drank ever night but I still drink. I have enough self control to know when enough is enough. its all about will power.

ZombieGirl on Sep 24, 2012

I do believe though that we have a freedom of speech and if that is how Jelle de Maayer feels about it than that is how they feel about it.

Scot Hacker on Sep 24, 2012

ZombieGirl - I actually agree that not experiencing drink or drugs is not a healthy approach overall. I'm not quibbling with that. But when people use "gay" the way Jelle used it here, I think it's more than a bad choice of words - it reveals something deeply unhealthy about the writer. This is not elementary school in 1975 - we can't just go around tossing the word "gay" around as if it's something bad / weak / whatever. We need to call out people who use "gay" this way and encourage them to reflect not just on their choice of words but on their way of thinking.

Jelle de Maayer on Sep 24, 2012

I do apologize for my bad choice of words. The only thing I wanted to say is that alchohol or drugs aren't that bad when used in moderation. And when I say drugs I don't say that you have to use cocaine once in a lifetime. NO NOT AT ALL. Smoke from a sishaa in Egypt, get hammered in Edinburg. Drink wiskey till you have to puke !

I mean, not doing so is quite boring in my honest opinion.

sarah maunder on Sep 24, 2012

I respect that Lillian has decided on this and all I can say is go for it, be proud to not drink or do drugs, so many people are influenced by peers and in a way that's how society has gotten in it's state by pressure to do the same as everyone else.

Don't get me wrong, I love a drink or two but I don't go overboard. When I was 18 I used to share a bottle of vodka with a friend every weekend and puked my guts up. In the end I realised it is stupidity and pointless. Now I hardly drink.

With drugs, I have never touched any in my 21 years and never will. To be honest it is pointless and stupid.

So Lillian I agree with you and wish you lots of luck, you won't need it though :)

ZombieGirl on Sep 25, 2012

I respect her choice also. I on the other hand though find nothing wrong with having a drink every once in awhile. For example if you are out at a nice Italian restaurant ,I see nothing wrong with ordering a class of wine with dinner or a margarita. My dad was drunk 24/7 and I told myself I would never drink.Now I drink on occasion and know when to stop because I have self control. If people cant control themselves or have an addictive personality they should not drink. The best thing to do is do it in moderation. Everything in life should be done in moderation!

Michi Noel on Sep 27, 2012

I support Lillian's decision to make this a bucket list goal. I don't understand why someone would put her down for her making decisions which won't even harm her...in fact, it would increase her lifespan and health overall. Putting someone down for them making what they believe to be great life decisions for themselves? Come on...that's a little low of you. :/ Just because you drink and do drugs doesn't mean everyone should, nor should you feel justified in your actions by looking down on someone who doesn't do what you do. I have never drank and certainly haven't done drugs but that doesn't mean I haven't "lived". It's just a lifestyle choice and everyone's view on what living is is different. Please, no more bashing. I digress.

Lillian on Sep 27, 2012

To everyone that commented, thank you. I love knowing others' opinions :)
For those who support me, I appreciate it.
For those who don't, that's your prerogative.
I have nothing against people who smoke or do drugs or who drink. Like many people have said, somethings in life are okay with moderation. But I'd just like to ask all of you to respect my decision, and to thank those of you who do. I don't think that by not drinking or smoking weed or anything else that I'm really going to miss out on life. Heck, I'll probably remember more of it. Yes, I may one day have a glass of champagne at my wedding but that's about it. And I'm proud of my decision :) you guys don't have to like it....or even respect it but you could respect me.
Thanks a lot for the input,
Lillian

Luis Velazquez on Nov 18, 2012

I totally support you Lillian! I think its awesome and you picked something kinda hard, or a challenge since almost everyone drinks and smokes. I drink socially but I totally agree with you..... people go out get wasted said it was the best night ever because of it and don't remember crap... wth?? GOOD LUCK! =D

Gretel Segovia on Nov 20, 2012

Lillian,
I support you whole-heartedly! I think it's ridiculous that people think that it is a necessity in order to "live a little". Living a wholesome life without alcohol and drugs is not silly, its admirable and commendable.
Kudos!

Casey Mullis on Jan 22, 2013

I believe in you Lilian and I am so with you, I do not need to drink and do drugs to live, i just need to do the things I want. <3

GenaFrog on Jan 22, 2013

I drank from 15-19 and became bored of it, I also smoked and wrecked my lungs. At younger than 40 I was fighting not to kick the bucket from pneumonia. I am now asthmatic even though I've long since given up smoking. I have never so much as smoked a joint although moved in biker circles where it was commonplace. They'd pass it around me. I have taught my children not to drink IN EXCESS, smoke or do drugs but due to peer pressure my 15 yo came home stoned! BIG TROUBLE, I now have him on a smoking cessation plan and I randomly send him to the pharmacy for a breath test for carbon monoxide so he daren't now. Good luck Lilian, not as you need it, stay healthy ( btw to others, I'm unsure of the context of gay in this instance but gay used to mean happy and jolly)

Jenniekal on Feb 09, 2013

I think you are awesome Lilian, ( and I love your name!) Not sure why people need to say anything except for "Good for you!" It would have saved my life a lot of trouble if I had stayed away from drinking...

Palak Khatter on May 18, 2013

there's nothing wrong with NOT doing drugs. If you want to "live a little" go jump off a helicopter or something (with a parachute of course since you want to live a little not die).

ZombieGirl on May 18, 2013

There is also nothing wrong with drinking and smoking every once in awhile in moderation. Jeez people are making it sound like people who do are the worse people ever. You don't want us to pass judgment on you guys for not doing it than don't pass judgment onto us.

Miranda Marcy on May 18, 2013

Lillian, I wish you the best of luck! While I have drank on occasion in the past, I have not done so in a few years. Never touched drugs, never smoked. At 35, I have no intention of starting! I think it's great that you've made a definitive choice for yourself.

Everyone else, live and let live...Lillian put this on her list as a goal for herself, it has nothing to do with what the rest of you do with your lives. If it is not a priority, then don't click the Me, Too! button. As for not passing judgement, I see a lot more judgement towards Lillian here than going the other way. It's a deeply personal choice for each person, and as such, will draw out strong opinions. Just...you know, treat each other with respect.